Don’t look back!
By Stanley Collymore
Just think for a moment or two, and if you can truthfully
remember the answer to the question which is about
to be put to you, openly and honestly say so. How
many times have you been advisedly informed
by friends, family members, teachers, neighbours and
even total strangers not to look back on your life,
for the past they assuredly claim is simply that,
has gone forever, and won’t ever be coming
back again. But is such advice as reliably
good as allegedly it calmingly suggests?
Or is it simply a concerted mechanism advocated
by those bidding this vindication to hopefully
persuade you to move on from what they
anxiously presume is the damagingly
psychological prospect of yourself
quite probably and ineffectually
clinging to what they observe
as erstwhile situations very
closely associated with
their bothersome and
inapt associations.
A possibility doubtlessly! But to quite seriously
jettison your entire past, whether purposely,
inadvertently or at the earnest request or
suggestion of others, just to avoid the
probability either of you accommodating
elements of your past history however
contentious these might be is quite
frankly well—intentioned but ill—
advised stupidity. And if it’s
done because of your own
free volition is patently
unequivocal insanity!
© Stanley V. Collymore
19 October 2019.
Author’s Comments:
Consciously distorting your own past in order to hopefully and advantageously tailor it to suit your distinctly perceived notions in relation to your current and spurious requirements of self-aggrandizement. Or, worse still, to falsely and dishonestly deny and even calculatedly attempt to permanently eradicate elements of that past because of the social inconvenience otherwise that their revelation might occasion for you in possibly hindering your acceptance into a personally preferred section of society that you earnestly and eagerly would like to belong to, while humanly understandable in some given circumstances is nevertheless no concrete basis that you won’t ultimately be found out, embarrassingly exposed and ruthlessly dismisses as the lying fraudster that you evidently are.
So wouldn’t it be far better, at all times, to be openly honest and frank with yourself as well as those closest and dearest to you, and through your evidently sincere efforts and committed atonement for anything you have seriously or unwarrantedly done wrong – and instead of hiding these away – truthfully show those who do matter in your life precisely who and what you really are; instead of trying to please everyone, patently letting yourself down and, moreover, abysmally failing in the process of doing so.
A lesson in life that can only be successfully attained by first acknowledging and then positively, if needs be, transforming the real you, and significantly for the better.
