True Friendship! And what it ought to, but seldom really means!
By Stanley Collymore
Real friendship basically has
nothing whatsoever to do
with what the recipient
of it either gets, or really expects to
obtain, from generally participating
in such a relationship, but crucially
in essence is actually about giving
one’s self crucially wholeheartedly
and honestly as well as effectively
distinctly obviously and manifestly
likewise, significantly committedly
too to that actual relationship that
most expectantly has freely been
engaged in, perfectly thoughtfully
as well as faithfully, and naturally
too effectively uncompromisingly.
However, such a friendship
doesn’t entail turning an
intentional blind eye
to the faults: self-induced or literally
clearly malevolently encouraged by
others, evidently obviously, relative
to this particular person; knowingly
lying for them or scandalously and
rather immorally making false and
naturally unsubstantiated excuses
for that individual literally because
you so slavishly, and irresponsibly
just regard yourself as their friend.
Which actually means that
while being, morally and
likewise commendably,
supportive as best, as you essentially
rather honourably can in that friend’s
genuine hour of need; self-evidently
that friendship or its continuance of
it with that person doesn’t mean or
ought ever to entail that you as an
individual in your own actual right
should, under any circumstances
whether voluntarily, or coercively
dispense, with your own evident
human morality; crucial integrity
and personal dignity, only to be
wholly or otherwise partially so
subservient to some individual
friend’s entrenched immorality.
(C) Stanley V. Collymore
24 April 2023.
Author's Remarks:
Being able to live with myself is one of the greatest gifts that I can and have bequeathed to myself and were this to be ever sullied would undoubtedly make me a mere shadow of the person that I know I am. I'm not perfect nor do I profess to be, but my Bajan upbringing has firmly instilled in me certain characteristics of life that would never ever be contemplated by me because se they're so alien to me. But on close examination it’s each to their own, I guess!
